Monthly Archives: August 2005

more about the vacation

Oh my GOD. I only just looked at Kilian’s blog for the vacation. He played a game called “Spies” with a bunch of other boys. He climbed trees, and collected sticks with them, and they peeled and sharpened their sticks with their Swiss Army knives, and Kilian wished he’d brought his, and they had a hideout and we had four-course dinners and whatever we wanted for breakfast and lots of foozball and Monopoly and Settlers of Catan and cake in the afternoons and read from Harry Potter and he wrestled with Gus and got stung by a wasp and hung out with Josef and Matthäus and Philip and Johannes and there’s nothing! Nothing at all about all that, just that he played some stupid computer game!

I am so sorry I brought that along, jeez. He gets so wound up about it, too, it makes him really tense and he snaps at people when he’s losing and I tell him to get off the computer and he says okay and then doesn’t, and when I make him stop he screams at me, and…and…and I am beginning to think that these computer games are not altogether good for him. I mean, it’s a normal part of childhood and all, and if he could approach it with any kind of moderation I wouldn’t worry, but there’s something wrong here. It makes him sneaky and obsessive and temperamental and incredibly tedious, since it’s his only topic of conversation. And he screams at me when I tell him his time is up. I mean seriously, that cannot be healthy.

I really wish I had someone to ask about this.

minimal travelblog

21 August 2005, 10:21 pm

Oh right, the blog. Completely forgot about it yesterday. We are on vacation in Bad Dreikirchen with our friends, H and J Zedelmaier, and G Murrer – Robert occasionally refers to them as the Zedelmurrers.

We left around noon, got stuck in traffic at Rosenheim (not really stuck, we just had to stop for a few red lights and go really slowly once or twice), and waited 45 minutes at the Austria-Italy border for the Zedelmurrers to catch up with us. Robert maintains that this is why the drive took 6 hours, instead of the two and a half he’d predicted. I’m, uh, skeptical.

Anyway. No crises, no throwing up, one tiny spat about ice cream, one very nice picnic = a Pretty Good Trip. We got to the hotel more or less in time for dinner, which is quite late here, and Robert got settled into his hotel. Dinner is over around 10pm, so then I had to put the kids to bed. I brought my computer here with the intention of getting some work done, but yesterday once the kids were settled in I was so tired I just crashed. No work, no blog, nothing.

So today was our first full day here, and I must say, it’s a bit draining, this vacation thing. Robert’s hotel room has only one very small window and is not nearly as nice as here, plus it’s quite a hike from here, so I am wracked with guilt. And Kilian is miraculously self-sufficient, but Gus requires a lot of attention – first because he has fewer ways to entertain himself, since he can’t read and there’s a heap of kids Kilian’s age here but no 4-year-olds, and second because Gus is not the best-behaved child ever, and needs to be corrected (ahem: make that restrained) frequently. And since I can’t ask Robert to do any of it, I am “on duty” all the time. And the duty is entertaining a preschooler, which has never been one of my talents. He is being pretty good, but it’s still a lot of mom-work for me.

Which means I’m exhausted at the end of the day. Which means not a lot of work will get done. But I do have to blog every day, because Kilian does. It’s only fair.

Tuesday, 23 August, 10:09 pm

Ooops, forgot all about this, even though I made Kilian do it last night. He and Robert had some kind of Foozball Death Match against Helmut and his son, and Gus wanted to play too, and it got really late, neither of my kids got to bed before 11. Bad idea, that. Staying up late, I mean, not foozball.

Bad morning, lots of fighting, but the weather got acceptable around 2pm and suddenly the kids were outside, having fun, being happy, for hours at a time! Wow. This is a very nice hotel, but what it’s really good for is being quiet so you can read, which doesn’t appeal to Gus, and hiking, which is also not really his strong suit. But there are a lot of kids around, so if they’re not trapped inside by bad weather, they can entertain eachother quite nicely.

Actually, reading and hiking are Robert’s thing (okay, I also read, but I can do that anywhere), which makes it doubly bad that I kicked him out of this hotel, because he could have enjoyed it so much more than I do, not to mention two grouchy, TV-addicted kids.

Oh well, at least I’m learning a lot. The reason we don’t go on holiday much is not money, but time: specifically, Robert doesn’t have any. I’ve considered taking the kids somewhere by myself, and this trip is a sort of trial run, since Robert comes around 2 or 3 and then leaves after dinner. So I’m on my own for half a day, and I’m learning that that’s quite enough. So any trip with just the kids will have to be a lot shorter, that’s one thing. Will also probably contain only one child per trip, and be very centered on his interests: science museums for Kilian, Playmobil fun-park and Legoland type stuff for Gus. Or train trips.

on holiday

Well, the hotel where Kilian and Robert were planning to go, the place we went two years ago, they didn’t get any cancellations, but they mentioned another place, about a 20-minute walk away, which did have a vacancy. So the plan now is that the kids and I will stay at Bad Dreikirchen, and Robert will stay at the other place, and join us for dinner.

So we are all four leaving on saturday, and will be gone a whole week. Wireless – no email, no blog updates, though I will take my computer. Kilian and I will still blog, we just won’t be able to upload it until we get back. Also (Mom), you can phone the hotel if there’s an emergency.

Um, yay? I feel massively guilty for displacing Robert. He says he doesn’t mind, he has an article to write, will appreciate the quiet, etc. But I still feel guilty. The place is much cheaper than B3K too, and I can’t help wondering why it’s so much cheaper. What if they just hand him a blanket and point him to the cowshed?


It’s like multi-tasking! Only not. I should email various people, I should work on this redesign, or that one, or send out a few postcards to some Luddites I haven’t heard from in years, or clean up the kitchen – I did fold the laundry, so I’m doing better than most days – but most of all, it’s 11:15 and I should go to bed.

But I’m not tired. But I don’t want to commit to anything that takes more than 15 minutes or so, because I might be tired then. Or not. So tonight (and I do this often) I’ve been lurching from time-killer to time-killer, checking the forums, reading my feeds, making cocoa, etc. Not that the feeds are solely for time-killing purposes, but that’s what I’ve been using them for tonight. But I was reading Eric’s blog, and it led me to Molly’s blog (I feel weird writing about them by their first names, since I don’t know them – I may be being very rude, in which case I apologize), both blogging about why they blog. Hm. Metablogging?

Anyway. They’re both very smart people, and their main points seemed to be about combining their personal and professional lives in their respective blogs, and about how much your blog reflects your personality, and of course That Got Me Thinking. (Also, blogging, for me, is a time-killer, and allows me to stave off work for a while and hope I get tired soon.) Well, I did blog about work a lot, since it was the only thing I did besides housework (boring) and raising my kids (and people who drone on and on about their perfect children are unutterably tiresome, so I try really hard not to do that, even though my (im)perfect children are the grandsons, bio or step, of about 75% of this blog’s audience). But then I got called on the carpet at work, as I’m sure you recall. Also, yesterday on the phone my brother noted that I complain about my job a lot in my blog, which I hadn’t noticed. Don’t like that – it was never my intention to publish a big wad of complaints.

So there’s not so much professional stuff anymore. I’m not Molly and Eric, anyway, so my musings about web design are not really that groundbreaking, not to mention that it’s not a suitable topic for the aforementioned 75% of my audience.

Then there’s the second part. I wonder how accurately this blog represents my personality. A fair bit gets left out, unfortunately. Today I wrote two emails, to Jenny and Kelly, and told them both a lot of the same things. Thought 1: hm, general interest – maybe this should go into the blog. Thought 2: nah, I’ve already typed it twice. So okay, the laziness is an accurate reflection. Also the repetition, because I do tell people the same things over and over again. But I don’t know that it accurately reflects my priorities. Things to covet was a big long entry about the Sarpaneva pot, and really, that’s about as much thought as I’ve given to that subject over the last two years. Gus losing teeth was much more important, and I think it got less air time. And the Fair! That’s been a big deal so far, and this is the first time I’ve mentioned it.

So bleh. Should I blog more, and risk (even more) repetitiveness, or save it for the really pithy stuff? No idea. Guess I’ll just continue to operate on instinct.

I’ll tell you about the fair tomorrow. Probably. I think I’m tired enough to sleep now.

pitter patter

It rained all day, so I am in That Mood again. OH, but hey. I did do something coolish yesterday: R had his 20th high school reunion a couple months ago, and he got some of them to send him photos from it, and I put them up in a series of slideshows. Now, the code is about 98% Eric Meyer’s, so no kudos to me there. But looky here, all the way down in the bottom-left corner: there he is at age 19. Isn’t he cute?

Things to covet

I think it’s safe to say that there are certain kinds of people, and if you are of a certain kind, it is difficult to deviate from the expected behavior associated with that. Yes, since you ask, I am going somewhere with this. There are people who will spend $200 on a pot, and there are people who buy their pots for $3.99 at the grocery store. Yeah, you know who you are. And I think it’s fairly obvious that I belong to the latter sort.

But I really covet this pot. I think it might be offended to share a kitchen with all my cheapcrappy aluminum. I am so not the type to spend $200 on a hunk of metal – a houseware. It is a wholly inappropriate thing for me to own. But still.

Robert has carefully pointed out that it’s a large investment for someone who doesn’t even like to cook. I said “If I had that pot, I would love to cook.” He was (understandably) skeptical. But isn’t it beautiful? It can go from stovetop to oven, and it even won a design award.

Yes, I know it’s just a pot. I know this proves that I’ve been living in the suburbs too damn long. What can I say, I did it for my children. I hope they appreciate that I sacrificed my personality for their well-being.

cat names

Robert says we can get kittens after the vacations. If we know we’re not moving to North Carolina soon, which is looking less likely. Oh, sidenote: some months ago, he told me that things were looking really good on the job front – oh right, May. Because he went to Kalamazoo to collect that award. I said oh, hm, whatever.

Not long after that, he told me he had a Feeling he’d have a job within a year, and I went into a frenzy of pre-packing plans. He said first you don’t react at all, then you overreact. I said “What? You said you had a Feeling!” That’s enough, right? I mean, hunches are important.

So a month or so later, he tells me the feeling went away. Great.

So I couldn’t tell you what’s going to happen next, but if I push it, we can have cats pretty soon. Of course we are now waiting for the vacations to be over because they will be chaotic, and then it will be “Wait till the MLA joblist comes out” (October, I think), and of course there will be some good possibilities there so it will become “Wait till after the convention, when we see how my interviews go,” and then he’ll have a good feeling about one or more of them, so it will change to “Wait till I hear back from them, should be in March…” See how that works? But as I said, if I push it, there will be kittens. Soon. So we are already discussing names.

Gus (of course) wants to name them SpongeBob and Patrick. Um, I think…no. Wait, make that No Effing Way. I suggested we name them Kilian and Gus, so we can say things like “Oh no, Kilian peed on the floor!” Kilian, however, wants to name them Phobos and Deimos.

I keep forgetting how smart he is.